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Testimonial for Monika's Work in Infertility
It was two years ago when we first met Monika. I remember it
like yesterday. We were desperate but also tired of the empty
promises.
In the previous 18 months, my wife and I had been on an
emotional rollercoaster. My wife had been tested for thyroid
issues, infertility, hormone imbalances. Each doctor was
confident they knew what was wrong and it was a simple fix. Take
this prescription and diet. When that did not work it was go to
this specialist or that one. Even at the mighty Mayo Clinic we
were disappointed. During this time we had our first
miscarriage. I remember the night vividly. We went to the
emergency room knowing something was wrong. We were first
triaged by an RN, she ordered a pregnancy test, a UA, ultrasound
and every blood test she could think of. After six hours we were
scared to death and still had not seen the ER physician. My
wife’s pain was increasing. My wife started to bleed. We were
reassured the doctor would be with us soon. She ended up
miscarrying in the restroom of the ER. We finally had the
ultrasound. We finally saw that doctor; he was abrupt and in a
hurry. He spent five minutes with us explaining that we had
miscarried and gave us a booklet for grieving. We were also to
follow up with our OB/gyn for a D&C. In addition to a 3,000
dollar bill.
It took a few days for my wife’s physical pains to subside, but
the emotional ones were just beginning. It almost tore us apart.
She had the feeling that she was broken and tried to push me
away. Everything reminded us of our loss. It is amazing how many
sad stories you see about abused or abandoned children when you
can not have one. Several months had passed and our OB diagnosed
my wife with PCOS. Though the ultrasound showed no cysts, all
the other symptoms were there. My wife was placed on metformin.
This was to stabilize her insulin. She started the medication
but her mood swings and frustration increased. She exercised two
to four hours every day for four months. She was obsessed with
losing weight and returning to “normal”. The weight did not come
off and she was giving up. I decided to spend my spare time
researching PCOS. The research was inconclusive as to the
correct treatment course. Most suggested controlling insulin
through diet and medication. There were several online programs
and institutes which promised to have the answer. We were sucked
in and for another few months we tried some different
approaches. None seemed to be very effective. We had given up on
the idea of having children and I just wanted my wife back. With
every new promise was a disappointment. Unfortunately my wife
was becoming frustrated with herself. We stopped spending time
with friends and calling family. The thing most people do not
understand is that it is not just your disappointment as a
couple, but explaining to your friends and familiesthat is
devastating. I decided to continue my diligence with my research
and found several dieticians and nutritionists who were
publishing and focusing on PCOS. This is how we came to know
Monika Woolsey. I did not even tell my wife about Monika at
first. I did not want another false hope. Once I hung up the
phone with Monika, I felt that she might be able to help. She
did not promise results of pregnancy or a magic pill to fix
everything. She said simply that every woman is different as is
the approach. She continued to ask question after question.
Throughout this entire rollercoaster I finally felt we found
someone who is sincerely interested in helping us. We were not
just another case. I did not know Monika’s intentions or if her
ideas would work but we had a glimmer of hope. Monika surprised
us a little when she wanted to visit our home. I did not
understand but we agreed. When Monika arrived she was not what I
expected she was “down to earth” and seemed very easy to talk
with. She also was very knowledgeable about the disease process.
I found her caring and very sensitive to what we have gone
through. Though she was very nice I was not looking for a friend
but a knowledgeable professional. I was put in my place very
quickly after challenging her on a few topics. She had read all
that I have and more. She has done her homework. She described
this as a journey of trials and seeing what works because each
woman is different and has different symptoms. Though our time
was up she was truly invested and stayed an additional two
hours. Till the time our questions were answered.
My wife started with fish oil and flaxseed oil in addition to a
session of acupuncture. We also were educated on reading labels
and identifying pure foods. I am in the medical field and did
not put much stock in this approach. To put it mildly I was a
skeptic. However after spending two months on the program my
wife was getting back to her typical self and feeling much
better. Some evenings we would call or e-mail Monika with
questions. She was never to busy to take time for us. We were
perfectly content with our changes. My wife’s moods were
stabilizing and her menstruations were becoming more regular.
Out of the blue we found out that we were pregnant. This was not
expected or planned. Monika never promised or led us to believe
that pregnancy would be the result. Her plan was simple. Make my
wife feel better and regain control.
When Monika found out she was very happy for us but she did not
seem to be surprised. She mentioned that this has happened with
several couples that were told they would never have children. I
can say that my wife will always have PCOS but at least we have
the knowledge to control it. We had our beautiful daughter on
July 21 2009. It was an amazing day. We have included a picture
of Monika and our daughter Brianna. God gives us trials in life
and we have had our fair share. In saying that I would not
change a thing.
Monika thank you for all you have done for us
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